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All of our decisions carry a set of consequences.  Sometimes those consequences are painful and embarassing.  Sometimes it’s just akward.  Many people refer to porn as the ‘elephant in the room’ or the ‘alligator in the village’ but for many of us, porn is the plank in our eye.  The worst part: we know it’s there.

In Matthew 7, Christ is ridiculing people who are so quick to point out the sin of others.  He likens it to having something in your eye.  He says,

Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye ? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye ?

In the context of this verse, the log-bearers were a judgemental group of people more concerned with the ‘petty’ sins of others than they were with the blatant outright sin evidenced in their own lives.  For women struggling with a lust addiction, the only real difference is that we are all too aware the log is there- we are just trying to go through life pretending it isn’t.

If it were to happen in real life, it would be absurd.  I know that I act immediately when I simply put my contact in wrong, but a log?  If I had a log in my eye, I would want it out immediately.  But that isn’t true of our spiritual lives.  We walk around with trees hanging out of our faces, half-blind to the truth and joy to be found in Christ.

We may not have an issue with pointing out the tiny sins of others.  After all, we don’t feel qualified to tell people what they are doing right or wrong.  We are perfectly happy if we can manage to survive life without this beam getting in the way, but we are missing out on so much.

We need to get that log out.  It isn’t enough to ignore it and hope it disappears, we have to actively remove it.

Steps to removing the Lust Log From Your Eyes

I am tapping into my medical background here, but here are a few steps that may be taken in real life in order to remove a log from your eye.

1. Tell someone!

     No matter how embarassing the story might be, if you managed to get a log stuck in your eye, you would be asking someone for help– and FAST.  There would be calls to 911, and a trip to the ER.  It would be a big deal, and while the doctors in the ER may have never seen anything like it before and may think you are a nutcase, they would still help you!  A similar scenario should hold true for us.  If you are suffering an addiction to lust, you need to tell someone.  Not just anyone– tell someone who can help you.  Not sure who that is?  Pray about it.  Ask God to bring someone to you.  Remember: He wants you free too!

2. Cut it down

It is far easier to deal with a section of a branch than it is the whole tree.  Do what you can to limit the problem.  If that means getting rid of the TV or internet for a while- do it.  Cut it down.  As women, we already battle enough when it’s just us alone in a room with our girly heart and wandering mind; we don’t need anything else to help us.  Figure out what you can do to cut back the temptation.  For me, personally, as I began my journey, I asked my college roommates to please stop talking about sex.  I knew they were single and looking forward to marriage and they were speaking about it in a way that honored and glorified God but I knew I couldn’t press on in that environment.  I needed the temptation cut down so I was the only one who could be blamed.

3.  Pull it out.

Better yet, have Someone Else (hint: Divine Physician) do it because you can’t see what you are doing (it is, after all, a log in your eye).  This may seem like an easy step but I can imagine it would be painful.  It was hard for me to even find an image of a plank in an eye that didn’t make me cringe in pain.  OUCH.  This is why step 1 is so important. 

You are not capable of silencing your sin nature any more than you are capable of operating on your own eye- Someone else is going to have to do it, and it may be a long and painful process depending on how deep it has gone, but stay true to it.  Though the process is long, you can rest assured that in His hands, it will be complete (Philippians 1:6).  It’s when we get impatient with the process or grow tired of the pain that we jump off His operating table, unwilling to continue because He isn’t fixing us fast enough. 

As long as we are unwilling to surrender to Him, we will remain unhealed and incomplete.

4. Keep it clean and covered.

Anyone knows that the devil is not a fan of purity.  You can rest assured that he is against this whole process from the beginning.  He wants a redwood growing out of your face.  He was happy with it there, and is more than willing to make sure it grows back.  Be on your guard.  Know where your weaknesses are and protect them!

5.  See!

This is the step we all like to miss.  We like to walk around believing we are supposed to be blind.  We walk around with one eye closed to His grace, goodness and mercy.  We feel that we deserve to be blind for the rest of our lives.  “After all,” we think, “what idiot gets a log stuck in their eye?”  That isn’t grace, though.  Grace says, “Open your eyes and see! See!”  We have been given all the riches of grace, and grace forgives our sins and heals our diseases.  It gives us the all-clear to walk in His light, in newness of life– freed from the pain and mistakes of our past.  He came to give us abundant life- without redwoods protruding from our faces!

The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it [a]overflows). 

{John 10:10- Amplified Version}

That is grace, but so many of us never get there, we walk around with a patch over our eyes, or worse yet, we put the log back in because we just can’t believe that it could really be gone.

Rejoice! It is gone.  You are free.  This is the grace we know from Calvary!

So if the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed.